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Showing posts with label Determination. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Determination. Show all posts

Friday, September 2, 2011

Fortune Friday: Uh-oh...What Now?

"Your coming is as the footsteps of doom."
--Lady Galadriel
The Lord of the Rings, Fellowship

My husband and I went to our favorite Thai Restaurant for lunch yesterday and got the following fortunes. Umm...seriously? I can't say that I like the spooky resemblance. My life has been such a study in Murphy's Law lately that I already feel like the ground could drop out from under me any second. And now THIS! Good thing I don't put much stock in fortunes! This is just a fun thing I do...right? RIGHT?


Thursday, May 19, 2011

The Daffodil Principle

"Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step." 
--Lao Tzu
Always, when I think about this wonderful quote from Lao Tzu, a simple story from my bookshelf comes to mind that I will share today. I'm not exactly sure if it is a true story (although I'd like to think it is), but I sure have given it a lot of thought through the years since I discovered it. As I have tried to apply the principle in my life, I have found that it is absolutely imperative to constantly be living in the present. You MUST NOT think about the future or you will get overwhelmed by the largeness of your tasks. And you MUST NOT look back and glory in how far you've come or it will go to your head; or even worse, you'll think what you've done is 'good enough' and quit. This is very difficult for me, but something that I am constantly working on. I hope you'll enjoy! 

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The Daffodil Principle
By: Jaroldeen Asplund Edwards

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come see the daffodils before they are over."

I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. "I'll come next Tuesday", I promised a little reluctantly, on her third call.

Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and so I drove there.

When I finally walked into Carolyn's house and hugged and greeted my grandchildren, I said, "Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in the clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see bad enough to drive another inch."

My daughter smiled calmly and said, "We drive in this all the time, Mother."

"Well, you won't get me back on the road until it clears, and then I'm heading for home," I assured her.

"I was hoping you'd take me over to the garage to pick up my car."

"How far will we have to drive?"

"Just a few blocks", Carolyn said. "I'll drive. I'm used to this."

After several minutes, I had to ask, "Where are we going? This isn't the way to the garage."

"We're going to my garage the long way," Carolyn smiled, "by way of the daffodils." I sternly told Carolyn to please turn around.

"Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience."

After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church I saw a hand-lettered sign that read "Daffodil Garden."

We got out of the car and each took a child's hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. We turned a corner of the path and I looked up and gasped.

Before me lay the most glorious sight. It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain peak and slopes.

The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns -- great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron, and butter yellow.

Each different-colored variety was planted as a group so that it swirled and flowed like it's own river with its own unique hue.

There were five acres of flowers. "But who has done this?" I asked Carolyn.

"It's just one woman," Carolyn answered. "She lives on the property. That's her home." 

Carolyn pointed to a well kept A-frame house that looked small and modest in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house and on the patio, we saw a poster. "

Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Going To Ask" was the headline. We saw:

The first answer was a simple one. "50,000 bulbs," it read. The second answer was, "one bulb at a time, two hands, two feet and very little brain." The third answer was, "Began in 1958."

There it was, The Daffodil Principle. For me, that moment was a life changing experience.  

I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who more than forty years before, had begun one bulb at a time to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountain top. Still, planting one bulb at a time, year after year had changed the world in which she lived. She had created something of indescribable beauty and inspiration.

The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration. That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time -- often just one baby-step at a time -- and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time.

When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world.

"It makes me sad in a way," I admitted to Carolyn. "What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five or forty years ago and had worked away at it "one bulb at a time" through all those years. Just think what I might have been able to achieve!"

My daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way. "Start tomorrow," she said.
 
It's so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson of celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, "How can I put this to use today?"

Friday, May 13, 2011

Never Let Trials Defeat You

"You miss 100% of the shots you never take." --Wayne Gretzky

A month or so ago, my 11 year old son had an audition. He is in his first year of learning to play the Tuba and wanted to try out for the Middle School Honor Band in our area. This is a feat not often attempted by 6th graders because they are so new to their instruments. But with the help of the world’s greatest private instructor, my son set the goal and worked hard to achieve it by faithfully practicing for an hour every night.

There were many hard days, but when he’d hit a wall, I wouldn’t let him quit. I’d encourage him to go to his room for a scream and a cry and come back to it in a few hours. This went on for 2 or 3 months as he learned all his scales and audition literature.

The week of the audition, he doubled his practice to 2 hours a night and was starting to feel confident.

Then it happened.

On the eve of audition, his mouthpiece broke. He practiced on his backup mouthpiece, but it was slightly different and seemed to erase weeks of work in his tone and ability to reach the high notes. He was understandably frustrated and had to go to his room to blow off steam many times that night.

On the morning of the audition, after a few unsuccessful attempts at a 2 octave scale, he set the Tuba down and informed me that he wasn’t going to audition. “It’s just too much,” he said. “Why bother auditioning if I’m just going to fail? I’m not going to make it with this stupid mouthpiece; I’m not!”

I panicked and regret to say that I was a little too blunt in my reply at first. But after a few harsh words about quitters and losers, I rallied and started talking to him about overcoming trials.

No one has ever achieved their goals without a severe trial that tempted them to quit. But winners don’t quit! Trials are God’s way of weeding out the morons. If you really want it, you’ll just show up and do your best, regardless of the result.

We went anyway, and he played an excellent audition. It was enough for first chair in the top band. He is the Principal Middle School Tubist in the county, and he almost didn’t even show up to claim his prize!

Never let a trial defeat you! It is just that…a TRIAL to prove how much you want it. Don’t fail the test. Don’t despair. Just show up and play on any old mouthpiece!